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Quiet Your Busy Mind and Experience the Stillness Within

Posted on Thursday, September 29th, 2011 at 3:00 pm

There are many benefits to spending time each day in meditation. However, there seems to be some mystery regarding exactly how one begins the process. This is an excellent exercise in preparation for meditation.

Set aside about 15 minutes for this exercise. This time is approximate. Just give yourself enough time. Be sure to turn off your TV, radio, and music of any kind. Also, move away from the computer.

First, find a quiet place and get comfortable. It is best to do so in a sitting position so you will stay awake. If you do fall asleep, or realize that you have gone off into a trance like state, just go back to the exercise and do your best to stay alert. The idea is to master the art of watching your thoughts, which in turn will slow them down and reveals the stillness within you.

Thoughts, in this context, include: sounds like birds singing outside your window; cars going by; sensations in your body such as an itch, a slight pain somewhere in your body; sounds from inside your home, such as a dripping faucet, or the hum of a heater, or a fan, and even people’s voices.

1. Watch your thoughts. Relax and gently close your eyes. For about 1 minute, casually watch thoughts flowing through your mind. Just watch them and observe them, then let them go. If you notice that you are straining, let go and relax.

Now open your eyes. Did you notice how quickly or slowly thoughts were moving through? What else did you notice? Were there lots of thoughts or a few thoughts?

2. Count your thoughts. Next you will count your thoughts. For example, if you first notice the sound of a bird singing outside, count that as thought # 1. If you then notice a sensation in your body, count that as # 2. If you have a thought like, “oh that was a bird singing should I count that?” Count that as # 3. Count as many thoughts as you notice. Keep alert during this exercise. Continue this for about 2 minutes, and then open your eyes

How many thoughts did you count? Were there five? Great! Were there twenty? Great! It doesn’t matter how many thoughts you had. Did you find it easy to count them? What else did you notice during the exercise? Repeat this portion of the exercise a couple times.

3. Stay alert as you watch your thoughts. Once again, gently close your eyes and watch the thoughts moving through your mind. Do not count them. Just watch. Stay alert. Continue this for about 2 minutes, and then open your eyes.

Did your thoughts begin to slow down? Did you notice a stream of thoughts that became a story? Did you notice a space between your thoughts? A short space? A long space? Great!

That space, or gap, between the thoughts is where the stillness lives. That space is what you want to cultivate. Let go and allow it to happen without controlling, without straining, without trying. With your soft, gentle, awareness on that space, a universe of quiet unbounded peace and joy will open up to you. It is always there. Allow your awareness to be in the silence.

Now that you have had a glimpse of the stillness, you are ready to meditate.

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Affirmations to Improve Your Self-Esteem: The Basics

Posted on Tuesday, August 30th, 2011 at 9:51 am

Affirmations entail repeating certain mantras, words, or concepts to yourself aloud or silently with the hope the sentiments in the affirmations get involved with your being. For many, this may prove to be one of the best methods for increasing and boosting self-esteem. That is why affirmations for self-esteem should never be overlooked in terms of their viability for improving one’s attitude or psyche.

The idea of employing daily affirmations in life is usually looked at as a way of achieving an external goal. Basically, people may decide to perform affirmations as a means of reducing weight, becoming wealthy, or developing the life they need to live. Is there anything wrong with such a method? Most certainly not! Most of these goals can be considered noble ones really worth pursuing. Therefore you do need to boost your self-esteem! Maintaining an image of low self-esteem isn’t the way to go -through life.

How can this be? Generally, self-esteem is your own opinion of your self-worth. Those that perceive themselves to have little self-worth are rarely going to succeed in professional, personal, or perhaps interpersonal areas. When you self-worth is diminished, you become diminished as a person. However, whenever you improve your overall self-worth you can improve as a person. You see yourself in a positive light and you will carry yourself in that manner. This eventually leads to the much desired ripple effect positive self-esteem delivers.

On top of that, affirmations for self-esteem are not very hard to employ. You will not be dependent on any obtuse or excessive steps and the time commitment required affirming your self-esteem will be far less than many will assume. Merely taking a little bit of time out of your day to perform your affirmations and meditation may be all that is needed for the affirmations to have a strong impact.

Remember, how others look at you will commonly be considered a reflection of how you see yourself. When your image of yourself is a positive one, others will mimic this kind of positive sentiments. In the event you lack a positive image of yourself this is not necessarily a problem. You could boost this sort of image through daily affirmations of self-esteem. Why live life with low self-esteem? The only individual that allows you to embody low self-esteem is yourself… and also you, yourself, have the ability to change such internal perceptions. Daily self-affirmation would be the definitive way to do this.

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Why Low Self Esteem Symptoms Can Affect your Life

Posted on Monday, August 1st, 2011 at 9:51 am

Having a low self esteem can really affect a person’s social life and even his or her professional life. A person suffering from low self esteem symptoms will most likely not achieve his or her goals in life. As a matter of fact, without self-esteem, a person may not be able to achieve anything at all. That person would spend the rest of his or her life feeling sorry and grumbling all the way. This is not good.

This problem is psychological; however it can totally paralyse a person’s life. It can totally affect your personal, social and even professional life in the long term. When you don’t have any self esteem, you are not going to have control of your life and things will slowly deteriorate around you. To be able to overcome this, you first have to know and realize the many different low self esteem symptoms

One of them is selfishness this is one manifestation of having low self esteem. A person becomes selfish because he or she does not fully comprehend the direction of his or her life or what is happening around the person. This also comes hand-in-hand with being assertive towards others. You or the person suffering could fake confidence in order to take something. One can have a little self-esteem but appear confident.

Another very important sign is if you don’t like who you see in the mirror, how can you convince other people that you are likeable? For example, in an interview, how can you convince the interviewer that you are right for the job when you don’t even believe in yourself? This is one of the low self esteem symptoms that can affect your professional and social life at the same time.

One of the most common low self esteem symptoms is personal boundaries. When a person has little to no self-esteem, he or she feels obliged to say yes to about anything. When someone demands something from this person, he or she would immediately say yes even if it steps over the person’s personal boundaries. This can lead to varying degrees of damage to a person’s life.

Another symptom is when the person has little to no social interaction. The person is almost afraid to go outside with friends or to meet new people. This is because he or she does not have the confidence to face other people. But, it is not a good idea to throw a person suffering from this symptom into a crowd of people to overcome it. Dealing with low self esteem should be done slowly and carefully.

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Change Your Life In Seven Days - Creating Your Self Confidence

Posted on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010 at 3:17 pm

Have you ever wondered if someone who appears to be totally confident on the outside, is really as insecure as you are? Most people lack confidence. The ones that are in your face confident are usually relying on their Pretend self. Pretend Self is one of three selves that we carry around.

First of all there is the Pretend self. This identity will fake it until you make it to manage life obstacles. Then, there is the Negative self. This identity focuses on all your negative habits and projects a detrimental image of the self. Lastly, there is the Authentic self. The Authentic self is the tender person you truly are at the core.

For many, the fear of being judged prompts those to hide behind the Pretend self. A lot of energy is consumed to use the Pretend self as a shield. As you know, it can be exhausting. Those who use the Pretend self on a daily basis will eventually lose touch with the Authentic self.

When someone criticizes you, it is the Negative self that will latch onto those words. This self starts a running loop of negativity that constantly plays in the background. Particular triggers will activate the Negative Self. If someone calls you a name, you become upset. Your Negative self believes that you represent that remark. “Any negative traits you identify are not really yours - they belong to your negative self-image, and were programmed into to you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go,” states Paul McKenna in Change Your Life in Seven Days.

On the contrary of the hiding and negativity, the Authentic self is the real you. This identity is the one with big dreams and noble goals. The Authentic self is filled with so much joy when loved ones are near and completely unstoppable when allowed to flourish. Once you identify the negative and false ideas that you have, you can access that Authentic self. You can change your life. You can develop that confidence by reading self help books such as Change Your Life in Seven Days. Once you fix yourself on the inside, you then can fix the external forces in your life.

Roxane Wehr believes the longest journey begins where you stand. Make that choice today and find that you can change your life in seven days.

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Change Your Life In Seven Days - How NLP Works For You

Posted on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010 at 1:50 pm

NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and represents the manipulation of feelings and thoughts in relation to language, both spoken and body language. NLP is common amongst self help practitioners such as Paul McKenna in Change Your Life in Seven Days because it is part of the therapy to reprogram negative habits.

Try this. With someone in the same room or where you can watch them inconspicuously, text them this message.

I saw a Scratch on Your car. Who Knows who did it.

Please remember to capitalize the words Scratch, Your and Knows. You want them to stand out a bit. What you’re doing is presenting an embedded command to scratch their nose. Since knows and nose are phonetically ambiguous, the experiment should work just fine. Did they scratch their nose?

How people respond to communication is what NLP is all about. NLP practitioners use observations to determine which communications prompt the desired outcome and which ones don’t. New communication patterns are then developed for the patient. Programs such as stop smoking and losing weight utilize principles of NLP to create new responses to external influences.

When you are communicating, you are broadcasting several messages through body movement (where you hold you hands for instance), eye contact (or lack of), tone of voice, the pace of your speech and even how fast you are breathing. What if all of those parts of your communication told the same story? Unfortunately, most people just use a shotgun approach because they were never taught how to do it effectively.

Take, for instance, a desperate sales person trying to close the deal. Because this sales person was communicating his fear, the client won’t probably buy. What about the frustrated husband? He’s trying to talk calmly to his wife, but she sees his clenched jaw and tensed shoulders. She knows they are headed for a fight.

Nobody gets what they want with miscommunication. Many of us have developed stereotypes that are destructive such as taking things personally when someone declines our offer, or at best, unproductive like assuming your request will be declined before you’ve had the chance to ask.

Communicating your intent is what NLP helps out with. NLP is a collection of explanations of what works for you. These are individualized so there is no one set that works for everyone. Studying NLP, you can, however, identify communication rituals that occur between yourself and others. How other people react to your modified communication styles will give you the feedback toward improvement. Can you imagine skillfully communicating to your clients, parents, partner and the kids?

Roxane Wehr believes the longest journey begins where you stand. Make that choice today and find that you can change your life in seven days.

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